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Cuckolding – A Brief Introduction

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I first shared this post just after beginning my journey for deeper meaning on Cream of the Planet. For this reblog, I’ve provided a few content updates, new links, and new digital art. Despite being buried in my archives, it is my third most viewed post. It is an important part of my journey and, if you haven’t already read it, I hope you find it interesting. 

Playing in the cuckold space is one of my favorite sexual fantasies. Whether I am the cuckold or the alpha male (man assisting in the cuckolding of another man), the erotic layers of this fantasy fascinate me. I am not alone. Within the world of sexual fantasies, cuckolding is a very popular fantasy. Despite its popularity, many cuckolds feel embarrassed or ashamed of harboring this fantasy. I hope to shine some light on the subject.

Neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam analyzed one billion sex-related search terms as research for their 2012 book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts. They found that cuckold-related searches rank #2 among most searched for sexual content on the internet. On a much smaller scale, I’ve observed a similar pattern on my blog—Cream of the Planet. Cuckold-focused posts represent 10% of my posts and 25% of my total views. Clearly, there is interest in this sexual behavior.

The meaning of “cuckold” has evolved over time and today we understand it as a term referring to a sexual fantasy/fetish in which the man is stimulated by his emotionally committed partner having sex with another man or men. In its purest form, cuckolding involves three elements. We have a couple that is emotionally committed to one another, his lover is having sex with another man or men, and this arrangement turns the male partner on as well as his lover.

Why are men drawn to this popular but secret fantasy? There are many layers associated with this fantasy and each cuckold will have their own unique spin. This is why I began with a core definition that forms the essence of cuckolding and is shared by all cuckolds: we are in love, our lover is sleeping with other men, and this excites both of us. Beyond this core, the fantasy takes off in many directions and often becomes a fetish within a fetish.

Here are few cuckold-related, erotic layers I have already explored on Cream of the Planet followed by a brief description:

Cuckold: Mind Bender – Cuckolding is sometimes referred to as the intellectual fetish. This posts explores the erotic layers of the cuckold fantasy and the importance of mental stimulation in the cuckold’s erotic pleasure. For some, there may also be a level of sadomasochism (the “SM” in BDSM) at play. The cuckold’s intense arousal comes from the intense but very pleasurable mental and emotional burn of watching his lover with another man.

Sperm Wars: Seeding Passion’s Flame – It is a somewhat uncomfortable confession…that it really turns me on to think about my lover with another man. The emotional burn, intense mind-fuck, and physical arousal is like nothing I have ever known. Knowing another man is fucking your lover induces a biological reaction known as sperm competition. Measurable effects includes increased arousal (hardness), increased sperm volume, higher sperm motility, increased thrusting, and deeper penetration. Explore the possibilities of sperm competition to reignite the passion in your relationship. 

Naughty Angel (Dominant Cuckold) – Dominance and submission are erotic layers sometimes at play in cuckolding. Typically, the cuckold is seen as submissive but this isn’t always the case. Check out this video for a visual exploration of the Dominant cuckold.

Cuckolding vs. Femdom – These fantasies often co-exist in male fantasies but they are not one in the same. Join me for an exploration that teases out the differences between between cuckolding and Femdom fantasies.

Cuckold-related topics for future exploration:

  • Interracial Sex
  • Small Penis Teasing/Humiliation – as a form of psychological masochism, the cuckold is aroused by his lover teasing him about having a small cock and admitting her craving for a larger cock.
  • Hotwife – the man is aroused knowing other men find his wife or girlfriend desirable. She is a source of pride, status, and power to the cuckold
  • Gift of Pleasure – some cuckolds are adamant that their lover’s pleasure is their only goal.
  • Exhibitionism and Voyeurism
  • Wife Breeding –  As men we have a biological imperative to protect scare resources and to extend our lineage. Explore the underlying drivers behind a cuckold’s desire to expend his scarce resources raising the offspring of another man and loss of procreation when another man has breed the cuckold’s mate.

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To wrap up this introduction, I set out to show the popularity of cuckolding and define its critical attributes–a definition all cuckolds share. I’ve also shared some links to additional cuckold-related layers that I have explored and listed topics for future exploration.

I hope you enjoyed this brief introduction to cuckolding and will join the discussion. If you enjoyed the post, don’t be bashful or hide your secret fantasy…click the “like” button or leave a comment. Let’s bring cuckolding out of the shadows.

43 comments on “Cuckolding – A Brief Introduction

  1. tiffanybeingfree
    January 7, 2016

    I’m curious to understand the cuckold’s perspective and am looking forward to more posts.

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    • Michael
      January 8, 2016

      Thanks for giving this one a read. It is truly the tip of the iceberg but I look forward to building it out and getting your perspective on it. Such a hot fantasy!

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  2. tiffanybeingfree
    January 8, 2016

    Just the tip?
    Ok, I’m definitely excited to experience more through your posts.
    Yes, I agree. The contrast is pretty hot, too.

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  3. jfbreak
    January 24, 2016

    I am certainly somewhere in the Cuckold space, though I do feel that the term has been co-opted to be a negative connotation. Thanks for expanding on the fetish within a fetish aspect of it. I prefer to go with Hotwife because it lends itself to the idea of “sharing” (though some women are offended by that) my wife for her pleasure and mine. The third realizes that he has won the lottery and is there because I’ve agreed to (really, encouraged) the arrangement.

    I’m not put off by the couples who turn this lifestyle into the husband being made fun of or humiliated by his smaller penis, etc., I say to each their own. I just appreciate that we all have our own often strange turn-ons, and the Hotwife theme works for us.

    I look forward to reading more.

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    • Michael
      January 25, 2016

      Thank you for the very thoughtful reply. I took a high-level browse of your blog and you have been writing for a while….look forward to reading about your experiences and having an ongoing discussion throughout different posts. Your thoughts are the “third” winning the lottery and you agreeing to the arrangement really resonates. When cuckolds are in fantasy mode, we often “act” like we have no power and have to endure the cuckolding. However, the reality is that we have great power in this scenario. If it wasn’t a turn on, it wouldn’t happen.

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  4. Paintrass
    January 28, 2016

    I so get this as I fall under the cuckquean spectrum of fantasies and desires…. love everything you write and all of the art…

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    • Michael
      January 29, 2016

      Cuckqueen…I can’t wait to hear your thoughts as I dive deeper into this space. I was excited reading a previous comment you left in another post. This just cranked up and extended the fullness of that reaction!🔥You move around in different sexual spaces…very sexy.

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  5. graveyardnight
    February 12, 2016

    Great blog. I’ve had the cuckold fantasy for several years. As you’ve probably seen on my blog, cuckolding is a major part of my stories. I don’t watch the studio porn, it’s the amateur stuff that turns me on; particularly, men filming their wives having sex with other men. I’ve often wondered what the man and wife feel. Jealous? Hatred? Love? Lust? From cuckolds I’ve talked to, most say hearing their wives moan and scream and call for the Bulls cum, makes them feel horrible and it’s a place that they enjoy. Some prefer their wives to have a full-time boyfriend, or as some have called it a second husband. At any rate, I’ve found it very fascinating.

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    • Michael
      February 12, 2016

      As you describe, there are definitely a lot of variations on the cuckold fantasy. I’ve experienced it from both sides (Bull and cuckold) and don’t think hatred or horrible are emotions that come into play. I think there is a big disconnect between what some with “the fantasy” fantasize about compared to real experience. Really, I think a lot of cuckold fantasies aren’t even cuckold fantasies…they are more Femdom/humiliation fantasies and can exist without a loving relationship as the foundation. I have several posts coming up where I try to expand on some of these topics and hope you will enjoy them. 🙂 I’m with you and find it very fascinating and extremely erotic.

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      • jfbreak
        February 14, 2016

        I would just add that in “normal” society, the only cuckolds depicted on TV or movies are in negative connotations. Tony Soprano cuckolds his friend, not because the friend likes it but he takes his wife as a show of power. The friend is left humiliated. In other movies, bad men often rape the wife, forcing the husband to watch at gunpoint. The husband whimpers because he cannot do anything to “protect” his wife, and in some scenes the wife appears to have a moment of pleasure.

        In reality, at least in my experience and those I’ve chatted with in Hotwife/Cuckold forums, if/when there is a humiliation aspect, it is part of the play. One example. It isn’t that I have a some super small penis, but our friend does in fact have a larger one. I find myself extremely turned on by having my wife describe how “huge” his cock is. Even more turned on when he and I are standing there and the size difference is so obvious. None of this takes away my ability to make my wife orgasm, but in that context, an outsider could view this as humiliation.

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        • Michael
          March 9, 2016

          Hey JFB, sorry I missed this wonderful comment! I agree with you on the humiliation/teasing aspect of cuckolding. A lot of guys do enjoy the cock comparison and having our lover acknowledge that she wants more…she wants a larger cock. In the moment comparisons…so hot and erotic! I would venture to say that the majority of cuckolds enjoy this added layer of size comparison. Would you agree? I certainly enjoy that form of erotic teasing as well. In the post, I was trying to drill down to a few elements that all cuckolds share. As you know, humiliation play can exist separately from cuckolding and some guys can get off on that whether it is with his lover or not. Also, I was suggesting that humiliation isn’t an added erotic layer for all cuckolds. I don’t know if you read the more recent post, Cuckold: Mind Bender but you might enjoy the evolving discussion and comments.

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  6. vinnieh
    February 15, 2016

    Cuckholding sounds really interesting.

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    • Michael
      February 16, 2016

      I will be writing in more detail about it. I have one series of posts “American Gigolo” where I serve as the alpha/Bull for a married couple. I’ve been on the other side as well.

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  10. paws2smile
    July 30, 2016

    This is something I have wanted to experience. 🙂

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    • Michael
      July 30, 2016

      Check out the other two posts (Mind Bender and Sperm Wars)…they are a little richer and have some great discussion by other women which is fascinating. Has your thoughts around this been around cuckolding your lover or perhaps him cuckolding you? This fantasy really pushes my erotic hot buttons 🙂

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      • paws2smile
        July 30, 2016

        Where he would watch. So would that be cuckolding me? But it could/would also be with a bisexuality fetish? I’m not bisexual but the thought of a woman eating me out in front of a lover excites me. Locking eyes with him the whole time, while she brings me to climaxing is a huge fantasy of mine.

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        • Michael
          July 30, 2016

          Mmmm, that is a juicy fantasy! 🙂 So, explore the cuckold fantasy from the vantage point of the man watching his lover with another man. This is the most commonly associated scenario. The man that is watching is the cuckold. If the woman experiences a scenario where her man is with another woman that is similar to cuckolding. The woman in this case is experiencing the cuckquean fantasy. As far as a woman and woman while the man watches…well that is probably called heaven on earth for all men, ha! I should add…love your mention of eye contact. The cuckold is often physically disconnected from the experience but the emotional and mental stimulation is super engaged. The eye contact just cranks his enjoyment up to even higher levels. Sorry about being slow to reply to a comment another post. I’m usually better but business had me tied down the last couple days. Thanks for exploring 🙂

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  12. Michael
    October 2, 2016

    Reblogged this on Dionysus and Black Bulls and commented:

    I first shared this post just after beginning my journey for deeper meaning on Cream of the Planet. For this reblog, I’ve provided a few content updates, new links, and new digital art. Despite being buried in my archives, it is my third most viewed post. It is an important part of my journey and, if you haven’t already read it, I hope you find it interesting.

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  14. CuckoldQueen
    November 15, 2016

    i love reading your blogs and the comments that form from them. its a nice thought knowing that it isn’t as unusual as people are lead to believe. i know for me it just started out at dirty talk during our usual romps but the more we talked the more i found it was actually turning me on. my initial thought was…oh god something is wrong with me. lol

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    • Michael
      November 15, 2016

      Thank you Cuckold Queen, I’m truly flattered. 🙂 I’ve had a similar awakening on the popularity of this kink/fetish. It really isn’t one that people share with others. It’s hard to imagine a woman sharing with her girlfriends that she cuckolds her lover. Same way for guys, I never told any of my guy friends that cuckolding is a huge turn-on for me. Yet, discussions of other fantasies are somewhat commonplace.

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      • CuckoldQueen
        November 15, 2016

        i think the everyday male fantasy is one grown out of being the biggest baddest man in the room. things like multiple women or being the dominant in the bedroom. but when it comes to this the initiial reaction is that it is something that makes you less of a man….its that old caveman mentality of hitting her over the head and dragging her to the cave. most men see their women as THEIRS and that is a thing of pride and masculinity so they could never wrap their heads around something like this

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        • Michael
          November 15, 2016

          I like the caveman reference. Funny that cuckolding is sometimes referred to as the intellectual fetish and suggests the need for mental stimulation (along with physical). Cuckolds come in many forms. Have you watched my video “Naughty Angel-Dominant Cuckold”? I tend to lean that way but am flexible when exploring and try different things to see what I like. I have explored as an “Alpha Male” as well and been the bull for cuckold couples. Most of the men that are able to pull off real-life cuckolding (as opposed to guys that just fantasize about it) are driven, successful men, good lovers, and are alpha-male types in daily life. Exploring cuckolding is a way for them to turn their world upside down and they find intense pleasure in this alternate universe. My guess would be this is true for your lover as well and that is why you are crazy about him. The idea of a cuckold being a pathetic, sissified man is something that comes to us from porn and I am on a mission to dispel this myth, ha! Thanks for checking this post out.

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  17. Kris
    January 19, 2017

    I would like to find more of this phrase from the past. In Victorian lit, it seems to be what the man is called after the wife cheats on him. Fascinating stuff.

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    • jfbreak
      January 19, 2017

      Kris – I think that is an accurate description of the term these days, too. Difference is, I think a lot of the cuckolds today actually enjoy it (having been cheated on).

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      • Kris
        January 21, 2017

        Thank you. It is a fascinating theme.

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      • Michael
        January 24, 2017

        Sorry for the slow reply, Kris. Really appreciate you checking this one out. Your recollection of this term is indeed how it was used and is the original definition. My use of it is in the context of cuckolding as a “sexual kink/fetish” or sexual play. The couple finds it arousing rather than hurtful. I have several other posts that take this topic a little deeper with more to come. 🙂 If the man is being cheated on and he doesn’t find it arousing, then of course it isn’t a sexual kink/fetish.

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    • Michael
      January 24, 2017

      Sorry for the slow reply, Kris. Really appreciate you checking this one out. Your recollection of this term is indeed how it was used and is the original definition. My use of it is in the context of cuckolding as a “sexual kink/fetish” or sexual play. The couple finds it arousing rather than hurtful. I have several other posts that take this topic a little deeper with more to come. 🙂

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  19. filthydee123
    April 6, 2017

    Michael, Thank you for sharing your deep knowledge and passion for cuckolding. I always thought it was used as a negative term, or a joke. Because of you I now understand more of what the appeal is. I find it fascinating. I’m pursuing my PHD in cuckoldry here at creamoftheplanet 😉

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    • Michael
      April 17, 2017

      PhD in cuckolding, love it!😄I’m on a bit of a mission with my cuckolding posts and your reaction and comment is extremely rewarding feedback. I appreciate you, brother.

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    Great read!!

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    • Michael
      June 24, 2017

      Thank you for the reblog, my friend. I see we have similar interests.😉

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