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Romantic Love: Hearts on Fire

 

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This post builds on What Is Ideal Love. In What Is Ideal Love, I briefly look at the Triangle of Love (passion, intimacy, and commitment) and how these elements interact to form seven types of love: friendship, infatuation, empty, romantic , companionate, fantasy, and consummate love. I left off with the notion that we seem to see romantic love as our destination. However, romantic love is but a crossroad at consummate love (our true destination) or disillusionment. I have taken the path to disillusionment too many times. Perhaps a better understanding of romantic love will help me and others in the journey for consummate love–our true destination.

Primary references in this exploration of love are the writings of psychologist, Carl Jung and the book, WE: The Psychology of Romantic Love by Robert Johnson. WE explores the origins and meaning of romantic love and shows how a proper understanding of its psychological dynamics can revitalize our most important relationships. Johnson uses the classic love story of Tristan and Iseult to illustrate his points. I highly recommend Johnson’s book. I’ve also included a few songs which capture themes of romantic love…there are millions to chose from.

Love Is Alive – Gary Wright

Romantic love can be thought of as the sensation of being possessed by love, soaring to new heights of enlightenment, and finding the ultimate meaning and fulfillment of our soul in our lover—”you complete me”. At its best, life takes on a new splendor and intensity that opens our eyes to the meaning of love. The world is brighter, we feel alive and vibrant, and completely engulfed in love’s magical spell. We know the magic of this high…it is truly a transcendent experience. 

Addicted to Love – Robert Palmer

We are also familiar with how transient and fleeting this magic spell can be. Johnson suggests that at its worst, romantic love can strip away all reality and turn our lives into a dance of illusion and endless cycle of despair as we move from one lover to another in search of another high. Once we have been possessed by romantic love, we don’t want to lose that feeling. It is like a drug-induced euphoria. We need another fix. We expect our lover to provide us with this feeling of divine ecstasy and the intense emotional connection we felt early on in the relationship. When it doesn’t always happen or fades over time, we become frustrated, lonely, and even angry at them for failing to lift our spirit…for failing us.

Your Own Personal Jesus – Depeche Mode

When we strive to rise above and beyond ourselves into something unified, extraordinary, and limitless–like the feelings around romantic love–we are having divine aspirations. When we look for this in love, we treat love as religion and our soul delivers. It is the nature of the soul to flow towards perfection. As this relates to love, we need to consider sexual archetypes. In men, the sexual archetype of an ideal woman is his Anima and she is unique to each man. For women, he is Animus. Within this ideal, each person has an innate sense of what it would mean to join as soul mates forming a divine couple. We see this union and longing expressed in poems, music, movies, and novels. We want it…we crave it. We can even scroll down our WordPress reader and see the quest for and celebration of romantic love everywhere.

Imaginary Lover – Atlanta Rhythm Section

The problem occurs when our inner and outer worlds collide…when we project our inner spirituality (Anima) on people in the outer world for fulfillment. Anima is infinite perfection. She is everything I want and never disappoints. When I project her on other women, she does what is in her nature. She pulls this lovely finite and imperfect being towards the infinite and great archetypal themes: splendor, timeless beauty, betrayer and the betrayed, lover and beloved, warrior and priestess, conqueror and conquered, the protagonist and antagonist, and dominant and submissive, etc… Anima is filled with infinite extremes and contrast. Through our soul projections, we each create our own cosmic drama and epic love story into the outer world. It is an illusion.

The problem with soul projecting is that no person can sustain the projection of another’s soul indefinitely. I cannot be someone’s eternal light, source of spiritual fulfillment, and eternal bliss. I am imperfect and finite. I cannot expect someone else to be this for me either. Yet, we all do it. I call you my soul mate, and I am your soul mate. For a time, we burn like wild fire with love and passion for each other. We each sustain the projection of one another’s soul for a time but inevitably, like wild fires do, we burn out.

So, how do I handle Anima? Do I ignore her? Or, do I keep projecting her on women and riding the emotional rollercoaster on a Don Quixote-like quest for divine love and ecstasy? I can’t ignore Anima…she is real part of my inner world. Rather than ignoring her, I should celebrate and express Anima through my romantic and erotic thoughts, meditations, dreams, and art. Many of us may be doing this on WordPress knowingly or unknowingly and find it very fulfilling. In a very real sense, we are tending to our inner world.

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I will catch traces of Anima in the real world. I should embrace and savor those moments for what they are. Sexually speaking, a woman may even role play aspects of my Anima through fantasy play and I can do the same for her. It takes open, trusting, and non-judgmental communication. Even then, as real as those worldly sensations feel, it can only be a transient illusion and I must understand this. Expecting anyone to live up to my Anima with consistency as a way of life only leads to disillusionment. If I can accept this, I can savor the moments where I taste perfection without the disillusionment that comes with expecting divine ecstasy as a state of being.

If we are able to see the truth in romantic love and recognize the dance of illusion, we may escape the burn out and disillusionment that destroys our relationships. If we can achieve this we are on the road to consummate and sustainable love. That said, we can’t dismiss the transient nature of romantic love as an excuse for being lazy in love and dismissing the importance of passion, intimacy, and romance. The interplay of this triad is essential sustaining consummate love. We need to communicate the importance of our inner aspirations to our lover in a way that is real and sustainable rather than infinite divine ecstasy. And, we need to understand our lover’s needs and inner aspirations.

Love isn’t all about me and it isn’t all about you. When it comes to consummate love, it is all about WE. 

78 comments on “Romantic Love: Hearts on Fire

  1. Tosha Michelle
    January 4, 2016

    This is wisdom. I’d love to expound, but in a rush. Lots of adulting today.

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    • Michael
      January 4, 2016

      Thank you, Tosha 🙂 Wisdom is a gracious characterization…I truly hope so.

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  2. tiffanybeingfree
    January 4, 2016

    Thank you for putting well researched and heart felt words to what I’m experiencing.
    There are many parallels to push and pull I feel at this time with my own romantic inclinations. Very timely given the series that is being published today.
    Namaste

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    • tiffanybeingfree
      January 4, 2016

      Would you be ok if I were to add a link to this post in the blog I wrote about fairy tale romance? I feel your article is a more in-depth look at what I was working towards expressing. I actually wrote that piece over the weekend, interesting that it also posted today.

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      • Michael
        January 4, 2016

        Absolutely! 🙂 Also, I’m a little behind on your posts but I will catch up this evening. We are covering a lot of similar ground…I like it.

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        • tiffanybeingfree
          January 4, 2016

          Thank you! No pressure, it just went live a little after 12EST. There’s another to release around 5EST.
          You’ve received a lot of attention on this post, it’s pretty awesome!
          Maybe we could to combine forces and co-write a post or series.

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          • Michael
            January 5, 2016

            Thank you Tiffany, it would be a honor and a lot of fun to explore with you…I’m a big fan! 🙂

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            • tiffanybeingfree
              January 5, 2016

              Awesome! Let me know if you come up with any ideas. I’ll do the same.
              Just curious, are you a Libra? You were drawn to the scales in the balance post, so was wondering if that was why.
              Namaste

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            • Michael
              January 5, 2016

              I’m actually a Leo which was the reason I had the lion as my Gravatar at first. But, being the attention seeking Leo that I am, I opted for the new one, ha! Still, the scales do call to me…

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            • tiffanybeingfree
              January 5, 2016

              I was thinking the lion was more about dominance than your sign.
              I missed being Leo by just hours, making me a Virgo. Though I still have Leo tendencies.

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            • Michael
              January 5, 2016

              Dominance and Leo (when fully actualized) go hand in hand 😉 I need to ready up on Virgos…I think we have some interesting mixes 🙂

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            • tiffanybeingfree
              January 5, 2016

              And not sure how I forgot to mention that the new gravatar is really hot!

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            • Michael
              January 5, 2016

              Mmmm, that makes me smile (and growl)! 😉

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        • tiffanybeingfree
          January 4, 2016

          I included a link, for completeness, to What is ideal love.

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  3. sirenlost
    January 4, 2016

    Oh … the “ideas” I battle internally. You know I struggle with these ideas. With the acceptance that there is no “ideal” romantic love. And that it is not everlasting. As a matter of fact, it pisses me off. Not for me — as I don’t believe I am capable/worthy of possessing such, but for all the people I watch in the various phases of love. I look forward to more … as I always do with your writing, your thoughts.

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    • Michael
      January 4, 2016

      Siren, I thought you were lost at sea! Thanks for visiting. 🙂 This post is really a message of hope. The takeaway is not that we can never posses Romantic Love. Romantic love isn’t the sustainable destination. There is an even better place where we still have passion, intimacy, and commitment. That place is consummate or complete love. We never get there because we become ticked off, resentful, or withdrawn when romantic love fades. We become disillusioned rather than communicating our hearts and moving towards complete love. Thanks as always for stopping by…hope it didn’t leave you in bad mood. 🙂

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      • Miss Evelyn
        February 12, 2016

        Did you ever reach complete love yourself?

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        • Michael
          February 12, 2016

          I hate to be vague or mysterious in responding to this question. But, the answer to the question is ultimately the final story to my blog. The larger story here will take years to tell. I will say though that I found the bridge (at least my bridge) from romantic love to complete love. Crossing that bridge and what I find is a tale that remains to be shared. 😉 Thank you for your insightful questions and engagement. I will be writing more about this in the near future.

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          • Miss Evelyn
            February 12, 2016

            You sound as if your blog ends with that chapter in your life. Does that mean you have finally reached completion? You are content with life?’ I think I’ve begun to realize life isn’t just about that goal. To find your so called soul mate. I’m even thinking such a thing does not exist. I’m also beginning to understand it’s okay that I won’t either and I have to accept that.

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            • Michael
              February 12, 2016

              I have a feeling I will continue to write and create even after I fulfilled the purpose of this blog. Hopefully, I will be writing about the good that comes from this journey of understanding. I am content for the most part and love doesn’t define my happiness. I agree with you about soul mates…that is placing the projection of a divine spirit on someone. We can find complete love that endures but it isn’t romantic love that endures. I really believe in this post and it seems like you may as well. I would just also add that complete love isn’t a step down from romantic love. It is a higher and sustainable love that lifts us out of the cycle of despair that romantic love leaves us with. Don’t surrender to your situation unless it is what you want. Perhaps you can even turn it around and gather a fresh perspective on it. In the end, it isn’t our lover’s job to fulfill us. Our happiness must come from within first.

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  4. mysecretme75
    January 4, 2016

    I’m not sure how this post makes me feel. Like Tosha said there is much wisdom here. In fact I fear that it is wisdom you wrote. I fear that it makes sense and is true. I suppose that makes me feel sad. Sad that what we believe to be real magic in the moments we are feeling it is really just the result of hormone spikes and projections of our desires and basically just anyone might be able to produce that for us. That we are temporarily blinded to reality. I have no real illusions of perfection. I know that the next man will have issues as well. I feel that guards me from feeling abject disappointment when I’m no longer blinded to the reality of those imperfections, but I still naively hoped that there would be more remnants of the romantic love in the consummate love once I found it. What makes me sad regarding all this is that the reality is that, maybe instead of looking for more, I should remain content to settle for the devil I know. Maybe the passion and desire I wish to feel for my partner is not a real substance I should be looking for. Rather I should settle for the dependable rock that I have. He is infuriating at times but reliable, trustworthy in most ways, financially sound. Not the stuff dreams are made of but that I suppose is naive, childish, and selfish to hope for in reality. Yeah, that all makes me feel sad and hollow. Empty. Lonely. 😔

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    • Michael
      January 4, 2016

      I’m afraid this post seems to have brought about a dark cloud…not my intent. I really appreciate your thoughtful reply too. Often, when love fails we are at our darkest and we look to new love for light…again and again. I didn’t like WE when I read it. I was in midst of romantic love at that time and thought he was full of crap. I did like the Anima/Animus concepts. The more time I spent with WE, the more I realized that I had lived the cycle too many times…he spoke the truth I didn’t want to hear or believe. But, the message is a message of hope…it tempers the highs and lows. Consummate love does require passion, intimacy, and commitment.If your rock only gives you commitment, he is giving you empty love. Commitment and intimacy without passion is companionate love, not consummate love. I have seen women that I am in deep with romantic love break down in tears while making love…completely overwhelmed by the emotion exploding inside them…then it fades. How can we possibly sustain that level of emotional intensity? From your reply, it seems like you are a realist and have a great perspective on this already. If you are missing passion or intimacy, you are not at your final destination for love and are settling…there is more. Passion, intimacy, and commitment that is real and sustainable is consummate love. There is a lot of upside to this and a framework for communicating needs to and from our lover.

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      • mysecretme75
        January 4, 2016

        Your post is brilliant really. I’m just in a dark place and feeling a little jaded and hopeless with the idea of romance at the moment. In fact I think rather than writing another chapter length reply here I do appreciate your reply. It does give me hope that there is more out there for me. I do not currently have passion or intimacy. Just dutiful sex and a daily domestic life of going through the motions. I’m hopeful that I’ve not reached my final destination. Thanks.

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        • mysecretme75
          January 4, 2016

          I meant to say I think I will link to your post and explore my thoughts on it further in a post on my blog rather than write another chapter length reply here. It really is a great post worth sharing.

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          • Michael
            January 4, 2016

            Thank you, I was feeling like Mr. Downer. 🙂 Look forward to seeing where your thoughts take us on your journey!

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        • Michael
          January 4, 2016

          Always hard to imagine such a sexy woman in need of passion…

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  6. Carisa Adrienne
    January 5, 2016

    Simply Brillant… You’ve written the piece showing your wisdom and incorporating music with it.
    Your last paragraph is striking so many emotions with me… It’s all about WE❤️
    Goodness.. Those words couldn’t be any simpler and true.. Micheal, my admiration grows and grows for you. Thank you for telling me about the piece. I needed to read it. I’ve been off WP lately.
    I will see what I missed here… ❤️

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    • Michael
      January 5, 2016

      Wow, you definitely know how to make a man feel great! 🙂 I thought you might like the music references…a different jukebox but music nonetheless. WE is always music to my ears…

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  7. Kristi
    January 5, 2016

    you know what is so great about you Michael? you don’t settle for even what you think you know. you not only open yourself up to different ideas and thoughts but you seek them out for a deeper and therefore more complete understanding of love and life. I really admire that in you.

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    • Michael
      January 6, 2016

      Thank you, Krisit 🙂 Just trying to make sense of it all just as you do so well… Searching for answers seems to offer a sense of inner peace, meaning in the journey, and hope for a better future. Whether the conclusions are valid…time will tell. Being able to interact with a sexy girl along the way has its own reward! 😉

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      • Kristi
        January 7, 2016

        tell me about it, the women here are mmmmm, mmmmm, HOT! 😉

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        • Michael
          January 8, 2016

          Yes…so very HOT! 🙂 And, you thinking about women has me dreamin’…

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  9. Kitten
    February 2, 2016

    I love how you explored the facets of love hear and put it to music. I just really love how you’ve shared these thoughts 🙂 It seems like you took a lot of time to research this! Job well done.

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    • Michael
      February 8, 2016

      Thank you sexy Kitten! 🙂 This does seem to be one of my more popular posts. Seems we are all drawn to love…even amidst the hot naughtiness. 🙂

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      • Kitten
        February 8, 2016

        Oh yes, of course. Love wins always…but why can’t we have naughty love ♡♡♡

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        • Michael
          February 8, 2016

          Like you, I believe naughtiness is often the missing ingredient. Naughty adventures as a couple can sustain the passion of romantic love as we move to a higher, more enduring love. 🙂

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          • Kitten
            February 8, 2016

            So very true. I think if more people would voice their naughty desires, we, as couples, would be happier overall. I think many people are too embarrassed to admit they want to try this or that. I’ve learned I just ask. We figure out if it’s good for us or not.

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            • Michael
              February 9, 2016

              If only more women (and men) could be so open minded. The erotic mind is very, very sexy!

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            • Kitten
              February 9, 2016

              It truly is 🙂 ♡♡♡

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  15. Mr Modigliani
    May 20, 2016

    Hi Michael, it looks like you’ve gone very deep into this subject. I’ll come back and read it more in depth. I had a mutual friend of ours surprise me today and your name came up, so I thought I would find you and say hello

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    • Michael
      May 20, 2016

      Thanks as always for dropping by Mr. M. Feels like I should offer you a coffee as we take a seat on the porch and enjoy a beautiful spring morning. I suspect we have a few mutual friends… Who was the lovely woman that makes us both smile? 🙂

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      • Mr Modigliani
        May 20, 2016

        Kristi dropped in to say hello to me (and I was appreciative). We had not spoken in a couple years

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        • Michael
          May 23, 2016

          That is wonderful that you two have connected. It feels great to reconnect with fellow bloggers after some time has passed. She is a beauty and genuine sweetheart. Cheers to a great week!

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  16. sexualdespondant
    May 24, 2016

    Michael, you have a way of saying things that a lot of people think about. I for one think about romantic aspects of love but I have a difficult time expressing it or most of the time talking about it. What I have learned and what I feel sometimes are different and so I tend to talk myself out of my feelings because they don’t coincide with societies ways. I know, deep down, I need to go with my feelings and reading the things you write about pushes me to forget what I know and go with what I feel. Knowing what you think and feel and the struggles to find what you want and look for is an inspiration to many. I love reading your words and your visuals are just beautiful.

    Sid

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    • Michael
      May 25, 2016

      Sid, you have left me a couple of very powerful comments today, and I really appreciate the time you took develop and share them. We do have an interesting struggle within society around the concept of love–what is real and what is an illusion. The presence of romantic love is probably greater today than ever before due to our access and exposure to the arts through movies, music, and poetry. Yet, we don’t see romantic love for what is really is (as I expand on the post) and anything short of sustained romantic is seen as failure. This prevents us from reaching a higher level of love. I have always hoped that my journey for meaning may, in bits and pieces, touch others. You are the inspiration, my friend.

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      • sexualdespondant
        May 25, 2016

        I’ve never seen myself as an inspiration so it is an honor for you to say I am. Thank you.

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  17. Emily
    May 26, 2016

    Hello, Michael. Thought I’d formally say hello since we now follow each other! I absolutely, wholeheartedly agree with everything you state here, it was like looking into my mind…and so eloquently written it is that I’m not sure if I can add anything of value. I’m happy to make your acquaintance and look forward to seeing what you have here in more depth. ❤ Em

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    • Michael
      May 28, 2016

      Thanks so much for stopping by, Em! 🙂 Some of the pieces (like this one) are a little deep but I have some quicker audio, video, and written works that are more sensual and erotic. Glad this one connected with you….

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      • Emily
        May 28, 2016

        Oh I’ll be sure to peruse through now and then! I like that you have layers. I have them, too. 🙏🏼😊💜

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  21. Dysfunctional Womans Digest
    October 26, 2016

    Micheal—I have had to read your post several times in order to fully digest its meaning and wrap my head around how appropriately the content fit my current situation. I relate completely to the desire to sustain the early tremors of a budding romance but find the monotony of settling into a routine unbearable. I have realized that part of the reason for this avoidance of anything sustainable is due to my fear of perceived unrealistic expectations being placed upon me; as long as the relationship never transcends the physical, I do not have to risk revealing my inability to live up to his Anima-esque illusions which I sense intuitively…this definitely tripped a few wires! XO DWD

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    • Michael
      October 29, 2016

      DWD, thanks for taking some time with this post. You’ve shared a unique perspective on this in that you sense the Anima projection and appreciate the long-term consequences of that. Personally, I think the awareness of Anima/Animus is a true gift that can lay the groundwork for meaningful communication with a lover and help to sustain at least intermittent pulses of divine-like passion in a long-term relationship. As you point out, it seems to be impossible to sustain someone else’s illusion indefinitely. ❤

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    October 29, 2016

    …and exhausting! 🙂 XO DWD

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  26. carlyquinnauthor
    December 5, 2016

    That smoothing over of the lumps and bumps in our partner that don’t fit with our dream. We project the qualities we need onto them, I get that. I think the exhausting part of this post is thinking we can never completely get away from that. There isn’t anyone out there who can meet us and match us step for step, let alone surprise or amaze us.

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    • Michael
      December 5, 2016

      Unfortunately, I think your question is the very reason this post exist. Not that I own the corner on knowledge. There is a higher love than Romantic Love. It isn’t a step down, it is upward with longer-term happiness. I think this is where sexual fantasies are so important…along with other things we need from our lover. We can’t sustain anima or animus indefinitely but we can recognize what they are and provide flashes of that divine spirit to our lover and they can do the same in return. Your sexual exploration is a perfect example of channeling a man’s anima in doses and that is sustainable 💖💞

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      • carlyquinnauthor
        December 6, 2016

        You mean a willingness to try and portray that projection? We can’t sustain it alone but we can toss it back and forth, so to speak? I’m sorry, I’m not one to really recognize or understand symbolism, I’m a good 90% cretin, the other 10 pervert. I want to do what feels good.

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        • Michael
          December 6, 2016

          Haha, you are so funny and HOT! Yes, a willingness to portray that fantasy…his idea of a perfect woman. You have to be true to yourself and be who you are but that doesn’t mean you can’t indulge your man’s desires. He should do the same for you. It can be simple things like even the clothes you wear. Maybe he likes dresses on women and girlie attire. But, the woman prefers jeans and sporty clothing. Maybe it is wanting to be sexually adventurous and woman has no interest. Over time, the list disappointment (large and small) build and he senses how far away his lover is from dream girl. Guys do the same thing. We stop dressing well. We forget the importance of communication and romance. One thing after another, we move away from our lovers ideal man. Instead, I can set aside time to plan romantic dates if I know it is important to my lover. I can dress a certain way if I know it makes her hot. We do this for each other and not for ourselves.

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          • carlyquinnauthor
            December 7, 2016

            It’s certainly easier if some of those interests intersect. At least, I think it is. I’ve tried four different ways of adding to this comment. Nope. I like the way you said it.

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  28. Aurora
    March 28, 2017

    I guess I never commented on this before. Maybe it was right after I followed you and it takes me a while sometimes. I’m shy. 😉 Anyway, I really enjoyed this read and the insight. The Anima/us projection is something that I think is really worth thinking about. Esp what you said in comments about being able to understand what it is your partner is projecting and trying to do some things to fulfill that. Honestly, I think that’s what love is about. We obviously have to stay true to ourselves but there are so many ways to show someone that you love them. Wearing their favorite shirt or being willing to indulge in a fantasy is ultimately not a difficult thing(esp if the fantasy is hot!) but it means so much to the other person.

    From a brain perspective, there are certain things that produce good chemicals that bond us together and I think those things are so important too. Skin contact and deep eye gazing are two of them that work to keep us wanting to connect even when things get difficult. I think we could all benefit from more talk about these things. The importance of touch(and the right kind of touch), of fantasies, of bonding behavior and brain chemicals, are never really talked about. Instead we talk about communicating. Which, yeah, that’s important but when you haven’t been touched in ages, why the heck would you want to talk anything out?

    Anyway, ha ha, this comment got away from me… I enjoyed this post. I had shared it with a friend a while ago but I’m sorry I never commented until now. You are so thoughtful and I really love how you explore things to gain a deeper understanding of yourself. Such an attractive quality. 😉 ❤

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    • Michael
      April 2, 2017

      You can be shy and it is a very endearing trait ☺️😘It feels very exciting to have you deep in the archives revisiting this post. This one means a lot to me. Your thoughts about indulging another’s fantasies and them indulging yours…or even more simple things like occasional clothing selections seem to be under-appreciated. So often it seems, we can on the attitude that I will only do what I want and that it is all about my needs. Yet, we don’t seem to have the awareness that the other person (our lover) may be feeling the same way. An impasse quickly ensues as each person digs in with their point of view and feels slighted by the other. As you call out, the touching fades…the eye gazing fades. After that, the openness to genuine communication and making adjustments is lost. Thanks so much for the wonderful comment 💖 You are such a special woman, and I hope love always fills your heart🌹❤️

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      • Aurora
        April 2, 2017

        Aww, thank you, Michael. That means a lot. I think love is the most important thing in this world and learning to love selflessly is a worthy lesson. It’s hard though, when you don’t get back what you give. I guess it’s hard to be a part of something with a person who’s not you – like, if we could read each other’s minds things would be better. Maybe, lol. Or maybe if we could transfer understanding. Download it into another’s brain. 😀 Hmm, I might have just given myself a story idea… 😃 Anyway, love is amazing when it’s right. And new love…there’s nothing like it. I hope you had a good weekend and I wish the same for you – love always. ❤❤

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        • Michael
          April 4, 2017

          New love is amazing, Sweetheart ❤️As for the your idea of downloading brain content to another…there would need to a away for the man and woman to physically link together. The mouth might be a good way. Here, just rest your head on my lap and I’ll run my hands through your hair as we think about it… ☺️😘 Maybe that will help with your story?😃

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          • Aurora
            April 4, 2017

            I don’t know if that will help with the story but it sounds amazing! 😘☺️ Linking mouths. Mmm. I can think of a few more ways too. 🔥😀

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